I feel stuck
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- someone who replied
I know what you mean. What is holding you back?
- someone who replied
Hum, what’s going on or how come?
- the person who asked
Starting dating someone and it’s been stressful.
- the person who asked
I’ve asked for space recently and he hasn’t been giving it to me really. Says things like take all the time you need and shows up at my place with the cookies he bought me when I said he could give them to me next time we saw each other. Now I’m torn because he’s doing nice things but it freaked me out when he showed up. I stated I’m not ready for a relationship a couple weeks ago, after we hadn’t talked for a bit and since then things have accel
- the person who asked
Accelerated.
- the person who asked
I’m thinking of ending things but I just struggle with that thought so much. I’ve been single for a couple years and it’s just really hard. I understand it would be silly to keep going if he can’t give me what I need but it’s just hard
- someone who replied, again
Men are from Mars women from Venus. Sometimes we really don’t hear the other person in a relationship. He thinks you need space because you are unsure of him so he trying to show you how much he cares. When really, you just need some space and time to think. Have you told him that him Showing up freaked you out a bit? I think being honest about it and saying that you do need space and that was weird is totally ok
- someone who replied, again
If he doesn’t get it and does it again, you know he’s probably not ever gonna get the hint and it’s time for a change. But sometimes you have to break it down simply and tell people how their actions impact you because he’s probably just guessing
- the person who asked
He apologized after he did it because he said he could tell I was uncomfortable
- someone who replied, again
That’s good! Then keep communicating and doing whatever you need to feel comfortable. You are doing all the right things. No need to jump to conclusions if you don’t have to.
- the person who asked
But he also texted me a few weeks back when I was taking space, before I was ready to talk. So technically this has happened twice, do you think that changes things?
