Since I was little, my parents wouldn't let me go outside because I used to get sick very often, however, this was only true during my first years of life. I wouldn't go to school very often and most of the times I did go I would show up in the middle of the day because earlier in the morning it was so cold "I could get sick", nedless to say the other kids thought I was a freak or something It went on and even today I'm still feeling this way.
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- someone who replied
Think we were chatting before. Let’s continue on the other thread
- the person who asked
No, first post here
- someone who replied, again
Ok my bad. Let’s chat. Does it feel like your parents are overbearing?
- the person who asked
No problem, I really appreciate your help. Yes, mostly my dad.
- someone who replied, again
Hum. Does that overbearing nature make it harder for you to go out and do things? Like do you feel like frozen or the stakes are really high?
- the person who asked
Yes, I feel watched by them, always thinking about what they'll say
- someone who replied, again
I can understand how that would make it hard to try new things.
- the person who asked
Yes, it's hard
- someone who replied, again
Is there something specific you want to do that you feel you are afraid to or something is holding you back?
- the person who asked
Maybe getting friends, a girlfriend and being more extrovert
- someone who replied, again
Ok. Cool. How could you start to break out of your shell more? Ever tried Meetup.com? Or dating apps?
- the person who asked
Not really, even though I'm almost 19, I still feeling like a kid in almost every aspect. I don't really think a I can change
- someone who replied
I knew a girl in elementary school she would always show up late and I often wondered about how her home life was. I liked her though.. she would often be reading a book. I asked her for a book suggestion once and it became one of my favorite books. When I read your post I thought of her.. and thinking about her makes me feel bittersweet bc she was sweet even if she was in chaos. My point in saying all this is that your parents determined a large
- someone who replied, again
(Continued) portion of your life for you and unfortunately didn’t consider much how it would shape you socially and self-image wise. Well you could not change that, and it doesn’t define you no matter how much of your life U spent there. Just yesterday I was upset thinking about the way my mom treated me growin up. is I bet you’re still brilliant even despite these circumstances you were burdened with.
- someone who replied, again
But I don’t know if you’re going to see these replies.. I will listen further if you wish to expound upon how you still feel this way.. you just can’t take responsibility for something you couldn’t change but it can really shape you. You’re not a freak just because you are embarrassed and ashamed from your past, you were a kid you didn’t have much say. they say it was for being sick if that was only in your first years of life.. did they
- someone who replied, again
Still keep you out of school for longer than needed?
- the person who asked
Oh, I'm so sorry I never saw your replies, I really appreciate you took the time to answer, it means a lot to me that you care about this, really, thank you. If you're still there and you are ok with it, I would love yo talk to you
