Please help. I met my wife about 5 years ago and I knew she was the one for me and I taught me to her. But now she told she wants to be with me and another guy. I love her and I don't want to let go but I'm afraid if she don't choose me in the end

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• the person who asked·7 months ago

  She was not ok with open relationship in the beginning and I accepted monogomy. I would understand if it would be just a fling, but I'm afraid there are deeper feelings. I have not been eating or sleeping for 3 days and I would love for someone to tell me it's going to be alright and I'm not wrong trying to fix it and let her explore. I got a free pass too, but I don't feel like using it

• someone who replied·7 months ago

  I’m sorry. I can see how that would hurt. Do you have any interest in opening the relationship? If not, that’s OK. You don’t have to make concessions for somebody else, you can if you want, and it’s your life you get to choose what you want.

• the person who asked·7 months ago

  Yes I had interest. But my interest was that you can sleep with someone as long as the only feeling involved is lust. The thing is also in 2 months I'm supposed to leave behind my family and home country to move to her home country (I've always wanted to live in a different country) and she is telling that she helps me and all and I'm afraid her feelings for the new are bigger she I'm left alone in new place. Tho she tells me she won't do that

• someone who replied, again·7 months ago

  Whoa. Sounds like a big change that if you are having some hesitancy about, maybe it’s a good time to reconsider or think of a new approach. Have you traveled to visit her? How come you are moving there and she is not coming to you? Idk if moving country’s to be with someone who’s not even willing to be exclusive with you seems like a lot of pain on the horizon to me. I’m just talking from My perspective. Idk you or what you are looong for