An ex-friend of mine is manipulating my partner’s friends into hating me because he chose not to speak with her anymore. Now his friends are causing him distress over this and I can’t confront her or it’ll just confirm everything she’s been telling them about me. I spent too much time openly venting and grieving the loss of the friendship to my partner over the past few months and I still can’t get over it, even with what the ex-friend is doing.

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• someone who replied·6 years ago

  Hum. Sounds like you are rather intertwined in that friend group. What can't you get over? Is there something unsaid or unacknowledged?

• the person who asked·6 years ago

  We were getting close at a quick pace. I genuinely loved her as a person, but wasn’t aware of the growing animosity she had towards me as she started getting involved in disagreements between me and my partner. Eventually she was only agreeing to see me as a way to get closer to my partner. It hurt to be used.