I need help, I have a crush, she's a 10 out of 10 in every category to me. The problem is that I know she doesn't like me. Any woman that I like has the exact opposite reaction. I know I'm overweight and awkward, but I'm trying to be better. I have depression and anxiety that make everything worse. I can't even begin to think of what'd I'd say to her just for her to see me the way I see her. Can I please get advice? Thank you.

13 replies

• someone who replied·4 years ago

  Have you talked to her yet?

• the person who asked·4 years ago

  I talk to her frequently but not about how I feel because I've known her since grade 9.

• someone who replied, again·4 years ago

  Interesting. How come you say she has no interest in you?

• the person who asked·4 years ago

  She hasn't shown it. Also I'm not attractive.

• someone who replied, again·4 years ago

  Are you at the point where you want to make a move and tell her how you feel ir or are you wanting a strategy or approach for how to build up to that or do you want to recognize it as a lost cause and not do anything about it and let go?

• the person who asked·4 years ago

  I don't think I can teller how I feel because then it'll ruin the friendship. I can't really take a long approach either because there's a bunch of other people who like her.

• someone who replied, again·4 years ago

  I’m gonna say some things that may feel hard or unfair to you because I believe that addressing this will make your life better. I hear that you are in a difficult place. Do you believe your friendship is worth harboring this inside if you for the rest of your life? Do you feel that her friendship is more important that you expressing and feeling a deep shared love? Because either it’s with her or it’s not and this limbo guessing space is only

• someone who replied, again·4 years ago

  Going to tear you apart in the long term

• someone who replied, again·4 years ago

  Any thoughts on that question?

• the person who asked·4 years ago

  I honestly don't know, I want to be with her so badly, but I don't know if I can risk our friendship.

• the person who asked·4 years ago

  Update: It turned out to be pointless, she's back with her ex. 🙃

• someone who replied, again·4 years ago

  It’s not pointless. You cannot just wait for her to be free and then hope she’s going to suddenly jump into your arms. You are going to have to approach her about it and express what’s inside of you.

• someone who replied, again·4 years ago

  Don’t hold out hope for a future you are not prepared to sacrifice you current situation for.