relationships & contentment
I have been married for 20 years to my husband and over the years it has become a relationship that feels like we are 2 people co habiting. He does not feel that way. Recently I have had a major job change and have voiced my thoughts more loudly. How do I explain to him that I love him but am not in love with him and how do I know that’s true?
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- someone who replied
What have you tried so far and what’s the point that doesn’t seem to be landing in his mind the way you want it to?
- the person who asked
We have tried counseling which changed things for a short time but then went back to the way they were.
- someone who replied
Sounds to me like you think it's true based on the statement 'how do I explain it to him ...not in love w him'. Is that accurate? Or are you still unsure about this idea? What's your heart calling out to? Keep trying to spark the relationship or go separate ways?
- someone who replied, again
Have you talked with him about that? Does he share this understanding as well?
- someone who replied, again
Otherwise I’d have to ask, what’s stopping you from just leaving? Taking a break, whatever you wanna call it. Seeing how that feels and goes.
