i cant go back to my ex even if i want to because i dont feel the same because he broke me so much, but i cant fell in love with someone a new person even though they are good and i gave that person hope that we can be together, but i cant i dont feel anything except pain, and now that person feels bad because of me, idk what to do
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- someone who replied
You don't feel the same because he broke that trust. Your bodies way of warning you to not make the same mistake. If your used to him doing this . Chances are he'll do it again. You gave hope because part of you believed he could be better. If he can't fix that then don't chase it. Don't blame yourself or let them make you feel bad (scare tactic to think no one else will love you) to keep you in the relationship. Be you ,they don't like. Move on
- the person who asked
ill just stay away from both of them, my ex and new guy because i dont know what i want anymore
- someone who replied, again
Do you feel pain because of the last relationship or pain with the new one
- someone who replied, again
Give yourself some time away from the ex before you get a new partner and perhaps something will grow with the new one because the pain from the old partner won't feel as bad. Get into a relationship because it makes you better person not for revenge or getting back at the old one. If it makes sense
- someone who replied
It’s ok to take a breather. Emotionally charged conversations lead to emotionally charged decisions. And sex really complicates things. If sex is involved and you want clarity, stop having sex and watch how fast the tone changes!
- the person who asked
i feel pain from both my ex and new one, i was trying real hard to make thing work with ex but i was crying everyday and it was all just messed up, and now i feal bad for the new one cause he really seems like a good guy and maybe ill get the love i want but im the one who didnt know what do decide and i made him feel something for me and at the end i told him im seeing my ex still so that broke him
- the person who asked
i though that im ready for a new relationship, but i was wrong. part of me still had hope that my ex changed but now even if he does i cant love him the same way anymore
- the person who asked
i didnt had sex with my ex that was one of the main reasons we broke up, because every time we were together it will always lead to that. he was trying to have sex and i didnt want to and then i will start crying and break up and he will look for other girls but when i ask him does ge love me or he just want to fuck, he will say that he loves me and sex is not the main thing he wants, but we will always go back to that
- the person who asked
he never showed me that sex is not the only thing he wants, because why do you always ask for that and not only ask, he knew i loved him and i trust him with everything he says and he knew i liked to cuddle and every time he was trying to get me naked. and on top of that during the summer when we broke up he fucked his best friend, i mean he was single but he knew i still loved him
- the person who asked
and he knew i didnt break up because i didnt want him anymore, i broke up because i wanted him to show does he really care, is he willing to change or not
- someone who replied, again
I'm going to say this because well men do love sex id be lying if I say they didn't. For some it like right of passage to manhood. Whether you had a bad experience with sex or maybe you want to prevent children because you still want to live your life kid free whatever the case may be. If they can't not be on the same page and will wait when your ready and comfortable and not guilt trip you he's not the one.
- someone who replied, again
Real men respect your boundaries but don't expect them to want to stay off sex for the rest of your life because maybe they want kids one day but that's a conversation you have to have with them. Don't let them make you feel bad though because they will continue that trend on other things you care about. Please don't be second best because he can't find someone to have sex. He needs to figure himself out
- the person who asked
i told my ex im saving myself for marriage but he cant wait few years for that. anyways i cant love him like i used to so i think i need to move on, cause now i have bigger problem with new guy because i did everything wrong with him and its my fault
- someone who replied, again
Be honest and truthful and if he's understanding it will work out with the new guy but he has to gain your trust back.
- the person who asked
well the problem is he want to off himself and he was saying that before but now its even worse cause i made it worse and im talking to him whole day and explaining that me seeing my ex does not mean the end of us its just rn i cant be in any new relationships
- the person who asked
i mean it doesnt mean the end of my and new guys connection its just im stepping back a little bit
- someone who replied, again
Yes but new guy doesn't want another friend that's a girl he wants a relationship with a woman who knows when to cut the other guy out of the equation.
- the person who asked
i know but im not her right now
- someone who replied, again
What's stopping you from being her? A guy who literally thinks with what's in his pants, hope he might change. Honey been there done that advocate for yourself stop settling for less.
- someone who replied, again
Sounds like you are doing to your new guy what your ex did to you.
- the person who asked
i know thats why i told him im seeing my ex and that im stepping back because i could have lied i mean he wouldnt know but i felt bad, and its easier to tell him now and not later when he will catch more feelings for me. at least i now know that i dont want any relationship
- the person who asked
well ill try to be that girl for him because he really deserves that, and i even told him ill put a lot of effort to gain back his trust and everything, but not now maybe in few months or year idk how long is it going to take for me to be completely mentaly stable. for now its better to stay away from him a little bit i dont want him to feel the pain i felt with my ex
- someone who replied, again
Thank you orange rabbit exactly. Girl leave them both . Don't be doing what others do to you.
- the person who asked
thank you
