Never had a close friend in my life at first kept moving from one place and school to another now as an adult i fear its because idk how to get close open up say when smth is wrong i handle things by myself like i used to and never show struggles or talk about it Idk how i never did it before in my life everytime someone wants to help keeps asking what's wrong i never answer even if i want to share i just freeze Any tips ?
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- someone who replied
I did the same thing. I’d freeze whenever anyone asked me what’s going on. I felt like I didn’t have the words to describe it. But really the words were ‘I feel bad, I don’t like myself or my life’. That was sort of it and starting down admitting that and understanding it was the start of my healing process. What’s going on in your life now?
- the person who asked
Mainly RSD i struggle with it and it makes me feel cut out from other people and makes me feel rejected and unloved even if thats not true
- someone who replied, again
Yes I’ve heard that’s how people describe rsd. I’m not treating to suggest you don’t have rsd, but you may consider not ‘owning’ having rsd. ‘My rsd makes me this way’ vs ‘I feel like sometimes I experience symptoms of rsd’ it may seem like a small difference but that difference is all about accountability and imo the first step in making progress. This allows you to ask ‘what about me and my life makes me feel or act this way’
- someone who replied, again
Instead of ‘I have rsd and this is how I’ll be forever’. You can go that route, but then you are essentially giving up any agency in your ability to change this situation over time. If you believe I ‘have’ rsd/depression/anxiety I imagine this backpack that you are gonna carry forever. It becomes like your identity weighing you down. If you say ‘I experience or feel’ it’s like you are just dating this thing. Not married to it forever
