i dont know why but i feel like imznever having butterflies with anyone, i like a guy and then it just stop i enyoj time with him but i dont feel in love or like a crush, adn sometimes i do care abput him and i want to see him happy but i dont have a crush you know when ypu are soo in love or just having a crush but i also would feel jelaous if he wenrto another girl. sometines it happened that i would not feel like i have a crush and i could
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- the person who asked
i could easily go find another one but i also would feel jelaous if the first guy finds another girl even if i have another guy to talk to or go out. idk whats wrong with me
- the person who asked
and i stopped liking kissing i really love hugging but i can kiss a few times and i dont feel like i want to anymore
- someone who replied
That’s ok! Listen to your heart mind and body. Nothing is wrong with you. Maybe you are just maturing figuring out what you are attracted to and what you aren’t.
- someone who replied, again
Just be open with those partners. Say some of the things you’ve said here, you don’t want to kiss as much, you are not feeling confident about your attraction right now, you are figuring it out and want to be honest with them about it. These things change. And just because you are feeling something now doesn’t mean it will be forever
- the person who asked
i dont feel like i will ever be in love
- the person who asked
like i want to meet someone that will make me go crazy and someone i will be obsessed but i dont think that person exist
- someone who replied, again
I get it, we all wanna be deeply in love and deeply loved. But this idea in your head is probably a self-defense mechanism to keep you from being let down. Wanting to be obsessed and deeply in love and at the same time thinking that person doesn’t exist protect you, because it means if you don’t have that thing right now it’s OK, or if you are let down by somebody else you’re fulfilling that idea so you stay right
- someone who replied, again
People do that all the time to protect themselves, because nobody likes to be rejected or let down so we commit to an idea that at least lets us be correct about our sorrow so we can be happy about that.About being right. It’s really so common and I’m so glad you shared it because it takes a lot of guts to share. What’s really on our heart and mind. But I encourage you to let go of that need to be right, and be open to the possibility that
- someone who replied, again
You may find that, you may find that love, you may not have it now. But that’s OK and there’s nothing wrong with wanting it. In fact it’s healthy to want it. It shows that you have a deep craving for connection that in it itself is a gift that someday you will find somebody who shares that desire with you. It can happen and it will happen if you open yourself up to it as a potential reality.
- someone who replied, again
Please forgive me if I’m being hard on you. I’m being 💯 honest with you. I want you to believe finding what you want is possible.
- the person who asked
its okay im just trying to think about what to do, im such a mess
- someone who replied, again
You are not! You are leaning to be yourself in the world. It’s ok!
- the person who asked
thank you
