Hey, hi There's this girl I'd like to approach but I suck at it, any tips?
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- someone who replied
Hey! That’s fun! What’s attractive about her?
- the person who asked
She seems so cool and chill, she looks like a lot of fun and I see her pretty much everyday at campus but we're not in a class together or something, we've never talked but I really want to, she always has a huge smile and that's somehow really attractive
- someone who replied, again
That sounds like a good reason. What’s stopping you from going up and talking to her?
- someone who replied, again
Or introducing yourself
- the person who asked
Well, 1: She's always with her friends 2: I don't know how to do it properly, I've done it a few times before and I'm always told "I have a boyfriend"
- someone who replied, again
Definitely going to want to introduce yourselves to the friends too. One trick is to not actually approach her up. Approach the friend group, make a conscious decision to put someone between you and her so it’s almost as if you’re actually trying to talk to her friend.
- someone who replied, again
The way you make it now and that you’re actually interested in curl is at the end of the conversation, before you leave or when you say bye. Look into her eyes just a bit longer than anyone else’s when you say goodbye
- someone who replied, again
The thing about that is then, next time you want to talk with her or the friend group, you gotta go straight for the girl you like. After that move she knew you wanted her, you made it known subtly. Commit to it
- the person who asked
I don't get it, sorry Also, I've tried approaching the group before but I got too nervous and had to leave, I'm not good with people
- the person who asked
Well, I just saw a guy ask for both her and her friend's insta, should I still consider talking to her? He's obviously more confident, probably more attractive and maybe he's a better catch for her, I don't really feel like competing but if he asked for both their instas then he doesn't really like one specifically but I do like her specifically, I'm now confused, and sad, an angy What should I do?
- the person who asked
I really believe in "the will of the force" but what doew this mean? Is it "it wasn't meant to be, that's why that guy showed up before you" or was it "you better hurry or someone else will ruin what's meant to be"?
- someone who replied, again
There certainly can be a will of the forest, but you also have to enact your influence over that will. Meaning you can’t just let things happen, you have to be an active participant in shaping the world around you and what happens to you. You have to create your own reality by action and will.
- someone who replied, again
Way if the force *
- someone who replied, again
The world is a competitive place. Resources are under pressure, you have to believe in the value you offer. Because you do offer value. It’s not about winning over somebody else, it’s about believing that you truly are the best option. Which if you feel that strongly, I have no reason to doubt you.
- the person who asked
Alright, I think I'll just go for it and see what happens
- someone who replied, again
Lots of fish in the sea. Don’t put too much weight into the interaction. She’s just a person. Even if she’s for you, there will be more chances
- the person who asked
Well, no one has ever been for me
- someone who replied
Coming from a female perspective. You'd be surprised who females are truly interested in. Chances are, if you've noticed her around, she's also noticed you noticing her. Women are very aware of their surroundings, and potential partners are high on the list of things to look out for. I say go for it.
- the person who asked
Thanks a lot, I managed to say hi and got her insta, it was like a week ago since we're on a break from college, the problem is I wouldn't know what to do or say when I see her again, I don't know how to move towards getting to know each other
- someone who replied, again
If you ever get the chance to talk to her you can give her a compliment on a recent IG post. Something like, "your last post got a ton of likes! You're super popular!" or "Your IG is full of awesome pictures!" and then ask an open needed question. From there you can ask other things, like, what's your major, why did you choose this college, how's your studies going, who's your favorite professor so far, where's your favorite place to go for lunch
- someone who replied, again
And the convo will naturally take its course in other directions.
- the person who asked
Thanks a lot, update I guess: The last time I saw her I wanted to talk to her again but she was with her (girl) friend and I didn't know how to approach the situation so I went to a place nearby to build up some courage but after a few minutes I decided I'd talk to her but when I was walking to where she was (I was completely out of her sight, there was a huge wall and a large distance between us)
- the person who asked
ran into her, she came out of nowhere and said Hi, I felt a huge relief (since I didn't have to deal with her friend) and we talked for a bit and somehow I managed to invite her to do something just the two of us next week, so, if she did that she's probably interested but the problem is I texted her, I said hi and asked her how she was and she replied quite quickly.
- the person who asked
less than half an hour after I texted her and she wasn't active at the moment I sent the text so it seems quick to me, anyway, she replied she was ok (with a smily face) and asked about me, here's the problem, I replied I was ok and I asked how her weekend was going, today she hasn't replied yet, she didn't read the message, she hasn't seen it according to the app but she was active all throughout the day, she just didn't open my message.
- the person who asked
Now I don't know what to think, this is so confusing, is she interested? Did she just tell me to text her so she could reject me over text so it's not awkward for her? She does seem a bit shy but she's a psychology major so she can probably read my mind or something, haha, seriously, I don't know what happened
