This guy I’ve been talking to for over a year moved down the street, I’m known for falling to fast. How do I avoid that? He has always seem to be to good to be true
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- someone who replied
It’s so exciting to be attracted to someone! I’m happy for you. Are you concerned because I’m the past you’ve noticed this pattern of falling too fast has created problems for your relationship?
- the person who asked
Yes. I either get too clingy or codependent. But I’ve don’t a lot of work with therapy so I’m not so sure I should be so worried and should just be confident in myself
- someone who replied, again
I’d certainly support that line of thinking! What are some of the things that attract you to him?
- the person who asked
His work ethic, his commitment(idk if that’s the right word) to his kids and family, hes so refreshing and even sitting silence with him is fine, we never feel awkward, we can sit and talk about anything and laugh for hours. I helped paint his house in the rain!! Lol! he’s pretty much head over heels for me, but trying to play hard to get. It’s fun, and it reminds me I should take things slow.
- someone who replied, again
Sounds lovely. Yeah probably best not to get extended too far out on the timelines when things are still blossoming. Enjoy the blossoming, the opening of the flower is the progressive reveal and should be enjoyed fully. If it’s meant to be a flower it will be a flower when it’s ready. The process of blooming though, that’s not something to be rushed through for many reasons, not just to jump in too quickly but also to skip so much discovery
